Greeley Bike Blog
All or Nothing
I bike to work every day. I haven’t driven my car in three months. In fact, I am thinking about getting rid of said car. I am a CYCLIST!
I have a bike in the garage. It’s probably 10 years old. Sometimes I get it out to ride with the kids to the park or participate in bike to work day if the prizes are good. AM I A CYCLIST? NO!
All or nothing: the inability to bring together the positive and negative or to perceive the spectrum. In the psychological world it’s called splitting, or antithetical apperception. Big words; simple meaning: it’s all good or all bad. You’re a winner or you’re a loser. You’re a cyclist or you’re not. It’s also a great way to create psychological barriers to just about anything. "I haven’t ridden a bike in ten years." "I have too many kids to take too many places." "I am busy and don’t have the time."
Prior to the arrival of my peanut, I almost exclusively rode by bicycle or took the bus. I could stretch one tank of gas 4months! I was a rock star-at least in my own mind. I am that occasionally competitive, over committed perfectionist afraid of failing at just about everything-even bicycling. Over the last 6 years, I have felt less than successful in my bike riding endeavors. The first three years of my daughter’s life, I rode my bike very little. It’s not recommended to put your bobble headed baby in a trailer until they can adequately control their head. Once my peanut could, she didn’t really like it. Besides that, even though my work commute is 3.5 miles, daycare was on the other side of town along a stretch of highway that was not bicycle friendly. Add to that the guilt of leaving my child at daycare one minute longer than was absolutely necessary or the fear of being unable to respond to her crisis in 3.5 seconds or less and this new mother was paralyzed. Black or white. I can’t ride my bike.
Eventually my restlessness got the better of me. I put my monkey brain to it. Couldn’t I at least manage a ride to the store occasionally? Why not cycle in to work, cycle home at the end of the day, trade bike for car and then pick up my peanut? What would it add to the total time in day care? 10-15 minutes? Half the time she was mad I showed up too early because she was having fun. Maybe, I can do this. It’s not 100 miles a week but I am on my bike. Today, I TRY to ride to work one day a week and add a few short trips to the library or grocery store. Now that I realize it is not an all or nothing proposition, I can be comfortable with one ride a month. One less trip in the car, one great thing I did for myself and my community and one positive example for my peanut.
I Am a Cyclist!!!